“Is there such thing as young love?” I am currently reading
the play “Romeo and Juliet” by William Shakespeare and since young love is one
of the main themes in the play, I have recently been wondering whether teenagers
can truly fall in love. I have unpacked some quotes that have helped me in my
understanding of whether young love truly does exist.
This play is about two family’s; the Montague’s (Romeo’s
family) and the Capulet’s (Juliet’s family). At the beginning of the play Romeo
is “in love” with this girl named Rosaline except she doesn’t love him back.
Lady Capulet tells Juliet that Count Paris wishes to marry her. Romeo and
Juliet don’t actually meet until the party. When Romeo sees Juliet, all his
thoughts about Rosaline disappeared. They are instantly attracted to each other
and then realize that they are each other’s enemies.
Is young love more of just
the idea of being in love more than
anything else? For example, In 1.1.10,
BENVOLIO
[…] What sadness lengthens Romeo's hours?
ROMEO
Not having that, which, having, makes them short.
BENVOLIO
In love?
ROMEO
Out–
BENVOLIO
Of love?
ROMEO
Out of her favour, where I am in love.
At the beginning of the play Romeo
is completely in love with Rosaline. He calls her the “love of his life” and when
he’s not dreaming about Rosaline in his room, he mopes around in a grove of
sycamore trees where those who are “sick
amour” usually hang out (1.1.4). Even though Romeo knows Rosaline has
absolutely no interest in him, he still goes after her. This makes me think
that Romeo isn’t so much in love with Rosaline as he is obsessed with the idea
of being in love.
Here is another quote when Romeo
sees Juliet that makes me think that Romeo is more into the idea of being in
love than anything else—(1.5.1)
ROMEO
O, she doth teach the torches to burn bright!
It seems she hangs upon the cheek of night
Like a rich jewel in an Ethiope's ear;
Beauty too rich for use, for earth too dear!
So shows a snowy dove trooping with crows,
As yonder lady o'er her fellows shows.
The measure done, I'll watch her place of stand,
And, touching hers, make blessed my rude hand.
Did my heart love till now? forswear it, sight!
For I ne'er saw true beauty till this night.
I found it interesting that at
the VERY moment Romeo sees Juliet, he falls in love. What about Rosaline—the “love
of his life”…the women he would rather die for than live without. This part
makes me think that Romeo was never really in love with Rosaline in the first
place if he’s going to forget about her so quickly. This makes me wonder, does
this also mean that Romeo’s love for Juliet is nothing more than a worthless obsession?
By unpacking these quotes, I was able to make inferences on
whether Romeo really is in love with Juliet. Before I started reading this
play, I believed that young love did exist because love is a feeling. Replace
love with the word happy for a
second. How do you now if you’re truly happy? We’ve all had those moments—weather
it’s when someone is taking a picture of you or you’re opening a birthday
present that you don’t really like—where you smile because you feel like you should be happy even though in reality
you’re not. There is always this one girl in school who always seems happy and
cheerful…but how could you really know for sure if she’s really happy? People
can give others the allusion that they’re happy but you can never know for
sure. I guess what I’m getting to here is that it goes the same with love.
Sometimes—okay, well most of the time—in young teenagers we feel like we should
be in love or we’re just pulled into it because of the idea. Since love is a
feeling like any other, only the person in love can determine for him/herself
whether it’s true love or not.